This is a topic one is not allowed to talk about – and it is all the more important that we write about it, as it is so very omnipresent in its many forms and so many people are affected.
1. Allow yourself to cry as much as you can, as often as you want and every time you feel like doing so.
Don’t hold back. Tears connect our shattered soul to the source of strength we never knew where. In the early days after losing a child, the emotional task is overwhelming. Scream if you want, punch bag, throw pillows. Do anything physical except when to do so would hurt someone including yourself!
2. Find ways to express your emotions.
Talk about your feelings and thoughts. Write about it. I’ve seen mothers receiving a tremendous amount of peace after connecting with the child they loss by writing to them. They were able to adjust to their new norms with grace and compassion in a relatively short period of time.
3. Continue what you are doing before you lose your child.
When impossible to do so, find new things to…
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